I started writing "Room for Change" with the inspiration from a group of unique and beautiful people attending a bereavement group sponsored by High Peaks Hospice. Their stories of perseverance and creativity in dealing with this new territory inspired me to create this blog. My intention behind this blog is: Creating change in your home by re-arranging items and thereby changing outlook, thereby reviving yourself and your home.
Change accompanying grief may be the last thing you want to do. Perhaps you did not want it and you may not have asked for it, but change is here. Your home with all its memories, its textures, its quirkiness and its aromas may seem like the only essence you have left of your loved one. Navigating through your home may feel daunting. Ask yourself the following questions:
- What is the hardest part of being in the house?
- When is the hardest time?
- What brings me comfort? Anything at all?
- Where do I tend to spend most of my time when I am home?
- Why there? Does it feel secure? Does it feel warm? Is it a place I always land?
- Is this comfortable place a new place recently created or a place I have always retreated?
Often in daily life we tend to get ahead of ourselves with the "to do" list or "should" list or "what if" list that may accompany our decisions. In and through grief these lists often magnify and may appear never to shrink. Remember your uniqueness, your innate creativity and your ultimate need to traverse this new uncharted time the way it feels best for you. Revive yourself and replace your "have to" lists with "want to" lists.
Previous blogs on "Room and Self Revival" have addressed the bedroom, the bathroom, the front door, color, and lighting. Small changes to these spaces can assist moving through grief. What areas of your home can use a tweaking to help you take an additional step in moving forward and in healing? Please let me know so they can be covered.
There are people out there to help you with this transition through grief. Blessings to you in each unique step.